This has been around since the late 1980s in this country and is well established.

It involves the couple meeting with a mediator, and matters are resolved during mediation meetings between the three of you. Mediation can be on all issues or, say, only on contact with the children. This works in a number of cases and is very cost-effective. Both parties can of course discuss matters at the same time with their own lawyers and get support.

The mediator is independent and cannot be a member of either lawyer's firm. Mediation does not work for everyone. For example one partner may feel unsupported and intimidated in the meetings and therefore feels left alone. Generally, both partners have to be very committed and function well.

The particular mediator needs to be the right person for the couple and should be chosen carefully. Mediation often works best if both former partners continue to have supportive advice and guidance from their own solicitors.

This is a process which can assist people in resolving conflicts and in reaching agreements for the present and future. Thea Henley is a member of Resolution (formerly the Solicitors Family Law Association) (SFLA) and follow an approach, which is sensitive and cost effective but constructive. In our experience, following Resultion's Code of Practice results in more disputes being settled without the need for Court proceedings.